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Damaged Emotions

“Being honest about our hidden hurts is important.  To heal the pain, you must acknowledge it.” Jo Ann Fore, When a Woman Finds Her Voice

We were driving along in my 1984 red hot Mustang, arguing about something; when he suddenly grabbed my long dark ponytail; and whipped my neck against the back of the seat.  I was mortified as I looked to my right and saw the guy in the car beside us, staring in disbelief.
I was an attractive and capable 18 year old girl, working and going to college.  Why was I putting up with this?  We were in MY car!
Why didn’t pulling into a public parking lot and demanding he get out of my car, and threatening to call the police if he didn’t, ever even enter my mind?
Or why did I go to the beach with him the day after he slammed my head against the concrete driveway in front of my parent’s house, after a fight we’d had at the bowling alley?
Why did I put up with that type of verbal and physical abuse for four years?

I now see it was because I had bought into the lie of Satan long ago; that I was stupid, worthless, and unlovable; and that people had the right to treat me however they wanted.  Deep down, I didn’t believe I had any rights.
Childhood sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse had left me silent. I believed my job was to keep everyone happy, and never rock the boat.
My emotions were damaged.

“Swimming on the surface is easy when you’re steeped in denial.”  Jo Ann Fore

Friends, did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? Have you ever tried to help someone escape an abusive situation, only to see them return to the abuse?  I remember my friends would get so angry with me, when after helping protect me in the moment, I would soon return to the volatile relationship.

“Manipulators can derail God’s purpose for your life if you let them.”  Jo Ann Fore

My emotions were damaged.  But praise be to God that through Jesus Christ and His healing power I have been set free.  God has taught me that my true identity is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Will you help walk along side one that is caught in abuse, living with damaged emotions?

Will you help teach her her true identity in Christ?  That is what Jo Ann Fore is doing through her book, When a Woman Finds Her Voice.  You can order your copy through Amazon today.

I’m amazed when I contemplate the fact that I never told anyone about the abusive relationship I had been in as a teenager, (not even my pastor/husband) until I told a counselor around 5 years ago.  I allowed silence to continue to hold me captive to the lies of the evil one.

“There’s an undeniable healing power in telling the truth to someone who validates you by simply listening-
honor washes away the stench of shame.”  Jo Ann Fore

I’ve found my voice.  You can too!

I close with the following scriptures from, Freedom in Christ Ministries.

I AM SECURE

Romans 8:1-2  I am free from condemnation.
Romans 8:28     I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
Romans 8:31-39  I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
2 Corinthians 1:21-22   I have been established anointed and sealed by God.
Colossians 3:1-4        I am hidden with Christ in God.
Philippians 1:6 I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
Philippians 3:20        I am a citizen of heaven.
2 Timothy 1:7   I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
1 John 5:18     I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.

When the Client is YOU!

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“The eternal God is a dwelling place, And underneath are the everlasting arms.”
Deuteronomy 33:27 
 
I experienced a personal situation last week.  A situation that rocked my world. Sadly, I began free-falling into a pit of despair, and felt as if I couldn’t catch my breath.   I was crying out in prayer, assuming I would be crash landing any moment, when suddenly I felt them firmly underneath me.
 
Aww, the everlasting arms.  They were underneath me the entire time!  How could I forget His promise? “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”
Deuteronomy 31:8 
 
This was Friday morning.  Flash forward to Saturday morning.  I rolled over in bed and set my chirping alarm to snooze.  It was time to get up and minster at the crisis pregnancy center where I volunteer.  As thoughts of pulling the covers over my head filled my mind, I remembered the faces of the girls and their swelling abdomens.  They desperately needed to hear about the eternal God.  They need to learn the feel of His everlasting arms underneath them.  
Yes, I would arise from bed and go and counsel from the heart.
After all, it’s what I do.  
 
When I arrived at the center I viewed the schedule and realized I would be seeing four different girls, all in desperate situations.  Wow, what an opportunity.  
 
The other counselor walked in about 10 minutes after I did.  I told her about our clients, as we organized the material we would be presenting to the girls.  At one point she met my gaze and asked me if I had anything I would like her to pray for me about.  I smiled,  but evaded  the question.  I had met her once before, and we had emailed a few times, but this was my first time to work with her.  I knew immediately that she was a kindred spirit, but I was a “counselor” not a “client”.  I really didn’t want to open up to her.  
 
Yet as the clock ticked on, we both realized the first two girls were going to be no-shows. That is when the Holy Spirit continued to prompt my heart to share my burden with her.  
 
I sheepishly told her that I did indeed have something I needed intersession for.  She replied that she “saw it in my eyes when she walked in.”
 
Slowly but surely I spilled, and she listened, encouraged, exhorted, an prayed.
 
The last two appointments were no-shows as well, and that was when I realized that the client that day was I!  And that was okay.