Damaged Emotions

“Being honest about our hidden hurts is important.  To heal the pain, you must acknowledge it.” Jo Ann Fore, When a Woman Finds Her Voice

We were driving along in my 1984 red hot Mustang, arguing about something; when he suddenly grabbed my long dark ponytail; and whipped my neck against the back of the seat.  I was mortified as I looked to my right and saw the guy in the car beside us, staring in disbelief.
I was an attractive and capable 18 year old girl, working and going to college.  Why was I putting up with this?  We were in MY car!
Why didn’t pulling into a public parking lot and demanding he get out of my car, and threatening to call the police if he didn’t, ever even enter my mind?
Or why did I go to the beach with him the day after he slammed my head against the concrete driveway in front of my parent’s house, after a fight we’d had at the bowling alley?
Why did I put up with that type of verbal and physical abuse for four years?

I now see it was because I had bought into the lie of Satan long ago; that I was stupid, worthless, and unlovable; and that people had the right to treat me however they wanted.  Deep down, I didn’t believe I had any rights.
Childhood sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse had left me silent. I believed my job was to keep everyone happy, and never rock the boat.
My emotions were damaged.

“Swimming on the surface is easy when you’re steeped in denial.”  Jo Ann Fore

Friends, did you know that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month? Have you ever tried to help someone escape an abusive situation, only to see them return to the abuse?  I remember my friends would get so angry with me, when after helping protect me in the moment, I would soon return to the volatile relationship.

“Manipulators can derail God’s purpose for your life if you let them.”  Jo Ann Fore

My emotions were damaged.  But praise be to God that through Jesus Christ and His healing power I have been set free.  God has taught me that my true identity is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Will you help walk along side one that is caught in abuse, living with damaged emotions?

Will you help teach her her true identity in Christ?  That is what Jo Ann Fore is doing through her book, When a Woman Finds Her Voice.  You can order your copy through Amazon today.

I’m amazed when I contemplate the fact that I never told anyone about the abusive relationship I had been in as a teenager, (not even my pastor/husband) until I told a counselor around 5 years ago.  I allowed silence to continue to hold me captive to the lies of the evil one.

“There’s an undeniable healing power in telling the truth to someone who validates you by simply listening-
honor washes away the stench of shame.”  Jo Ann Fore

I’ve found my voice.  You can too!

I close with the following scriptures from, Freedom in Christ Ministries.


Romans 8:1-2  I am free from condemnation.
Romans 8:28     I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
Romans 8:31-39  I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
2 Corinthians 1:21-22   I have been established anointed and sealed by God.
Colossians 3:1-4        I am hidden with Christ in God.
Philippians 1:6 I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
Philippians 3:20        I am a citizen of heaven.
2 Timothy 1:7   I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
1 John 5:18     I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.

10 thoughts on “Damaged Emotions

  1. shanyns

    As an abuse survivor I relate deeply to your words, and I too fell for the lie of my unworth. I struggle with that sometimes. Even today. But God is good. And girl I love your voice. So glad you are here and wrote about the hard stuff, the not pretty stuff. That is where the heart of things is at.

  2. Susan

    Dear Cheryl,
    Bless you for having the courage and the honesty to write this and share your own experience so deeply! I am standing up and cheering for you right now!!!
    What you are saying is so true and so powerful and so needed for all of us, no matter what our different life experiences may be.
    Thank you for the verses of truth to combat our deep and painful hurts and wrong thoughts about who we are.
    bless you my friend,

  3. Melinda

    Sexual abuse age three to seventeen. Domestic abuse five year first marriage. Weeping at your words. Oh Abba thank you for truth. May your word burn in our mind like eternal flames eradicating the darkness. In Jesus name, Amen. Thank you for using your voice.

  4. Sarah Knepper


    You are brave, beautiful, intelligent and simply wonderful. I’m so proud of you for sharing your story by steeping out in faith. God is amazing and our ultimate healer. Clapping for you!!

  5. My Secret Place

    “Have you ever tried to help someone escape an abusive situation, only to see them return to the abuse? I remember my friends would get so angry with me, when after helping protect me in the moment, I would soon return to the volatile relationship.”

    Oh Cheryl, no matter how many stories I hear, my heart always cries for the ‘little girl’, the ‘lost young lady’ within us that had to endure abuse and pain.

    I humbly learned early on that to try to force a woman to leave before she’s ready can be almost as devastating as being her abuser. In both cases, we are taking control away form them. Such a deeply important lesson to learn and understand. .Nevertheless, we speak up and we speak out. And all the while we pray and love.

    So proud that you spoke…even after so many years. What a beautiful continuation of God’s healing power..

  6. teresa

    Cheryl – My beautiful friend – It is sad how silent we allow ourselves to become so that we don’t appear to be the victim to others. after being abused for 10 years from one of my brothers, I finally realized I needed help and went for group counseling at a church. My mom blamed me for destroying our family.

    Twenty years later it’s only by God’s grace that has brought me to where I am today, I’m grateful for His healing hand on my life.


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